How to Be a Leader Not a Follower

Step1

"bad example i know! but you cant tell me that pizza dosent look dank! haha"CHOOSE YOUR FREINDS DONT LET YOUR FREINDS CHOOSE YOU- Yes thats right! Cant make it any easier than that. Choose your freinds. Dont wait to be accepted by your peers. So you want to be in the in crowd right? I take it you want to hang around the jocks, or the pretty boys click, or if your a girl you probaly want to hang around the slutty groups or the paris hilton club group! It dosent matter what group you want to take part of at school, or anywere were you like to socialize just remember to always be true to yourself no matter what! In most cases in order to be apart of a click you have to dress a certain way or listen to a certain type of music. What kind of crap is that? Im sure this has happend to a lot of you before especially in highschool! Oh man what a terrible place! Everyone thier has an ego and most of the kids there are stereo typical. But thats beside the point. What im trying to tell you is dont let pepole you want to have a freindship with change who you are to be accepted! This goes for jobs, clubs, projects, sports teams, careers, etc.

Step2

"dont be like everyone else be diffrent"DO IT YOUR WAY-Life isn’t a cooking recipe so stop letting people tell you how to do something. Do it your way. We learn at jobs and at school that there is only one efficient way to do something. The teacher tells you that the correct way is this and that. At jobs your smelly boss always is trying to correct you. After a while you start developing bad habits its a pain in the ass. I hate it when people are so routine. There is no individuality or creativity. I used to play basketball and I hated it because my coach was the type that had to have everything done perfect! If one person was out of line he would get really upset! Don’t get me wrong I had a hell of a team but whenever we watched film everyone looked the same! It was like robots! Nobody had style, nobody had creativity it was all about running the same dam plays every dam time. That’s know way to live life. Stop being so routine and following the band wagon! Don’t wear your hair straight just because everyone at school is wearing theirs straight, put it in a ponytail just do what you feel. Let me tell you the worse feeling is when you are surrounded by people who have the exact same style as you. It sucks and its embarrassing.

Step3

"listening to diffrent types of music helps a lot!"TRYING SOMETHING NEW-Michael Jordan was the type of person who always tried something new. He wore his shoes a different way that nobody hadn’t seen before in the NBA. He wore his shirts longer than everybody else. You can say he was somewhat of a trend setter but at the same time he was just trying to stand out and try something fresh at the table. Its always good to try something new in your life. Our days are numbered but their is just enough time to test the waters on a lot of things. Join the choir, eat different foods, travel different places, wear different clothes, watch different television shows, listen to different music, make new friends, meet new people, road trips, piano lessons, join a church, drink different alcoholic beverages, try new exercises. The list goes on and on. When you try new things you open your mind up more. It always helps you when dating because then you’ll know a lot of places to take your date and it wont be boring like your typical movie and dinner. All leaders should have an open mind. Non leaders are the ones who let people tell them were to go out or what to do. Trying something new everyday will make you unique and will separate you from the robots in our society.

Step4

"okay you dont have to take it this far but sometimes being a lone can help"BECOME A LONER- Yes that’s right! Do everything alone forget about your friends and stop socializing and go live in the jungle and wait to be rescued like Tarzan! No I’m just playing ha-ha but the story of Tarzan would be a great example. Sometimes you will find in life that you cant always count on the people you need. I’m pretty sure you wanted to go out with the guys or you wanted to go shopping at the mall with your friends but they don’t pick up their phone or they say "sorry I cant". At this point your probably sitting at your house all ready to leave, you got your favorite dress on or for guys you got your fresh clothes and now you have nobody to go chill with. I know how you feel trust me it happens to me all the time. But what do you think I do about it? I go out anyway! I don’t wait for those fools who don’t like to have fun! Why should you? You got to learn how to be an individual! Be independent! All real leaders can hold their own ****! You have to do things on your own to establish a sense of self secure ness. Go to the beach a lone one day out of the week if possible and just sit there and relax. Go shopping alone! Give time to yourself for once. Stop relying on people. Remember friends are fun and great to have around but don’t rely on them to make you happy.

Step5

"Kobe is a great example!"SET THE EXAMPLE-There are plenty of more different ways a person can be a leader. Thousands to be exact but the main keys are stated in this article. You’ve got all the tools and resources now use them! Be the example. I remember in junior high school I was the ladies man! All the girls wanted a piece of me. There was a certain group I chilled with at lunch. You can say I was a robot! I wanted to dress like everybody else, talk like them, walk like them, act like them. I was actually doing that for a while, you know living the dream! Until that one day that will always have an impact on me in life! Jarred! He was a new kid at school. Usually when new kids came to my school people would just ignore them! But their was something special about this kid. I realized this when all the girls in the whole dam school though he was hot! That’s all they would talk about Jarred this Jarred that! I hadn’t really seen the guy so I did a little investigation and the results were shocking! This kid looked like a completer loser! He had long dark hair kind of punkrockish style, he had tight skinny Dickies, with converse. I took a very good look at him and I was confused because he didn’t look like us! He didn’t look like the in crowd! He didn’t have Nike AIR FORCE 1's! Why were all the chicks on his nuts! It wasn’t till my senior year of high school when I began realizing that he was different! He was a leader he had his own style and he did whatever the **** he wanted to. From that day forward I stopped looking at the world in fast motion and started seeing things in slow mo. I see things that other people cant when really its right in front of them.